Monday, March 30, 2009

It's BLOG CANDY TIME!

I LOVE photography, scrapbooking and paper crafting. Surprised? You shouldn't be. With my memory issue, it's important that I photograph important (and just fun) moments in my life, otherwise, my memories of my life will fade faster than I can say "blog candy"...

And, that's what I'm writing about today - blog candy. Did you know there are blogs out here that offer "blog candy"? Yup... you read the blog, follow the blog and have an opportunity to win little prizes, too! Blog candy are cool little (and in this case, NOT so little!) freebies!

One of my favorite blogs today is offering blog candy in celebration of reaching a high point - 2000 hits! Can you imagine that? Wow, I'd love just ONE hit and she has 2000!!!!! I'm thrilled for her because I just LOVE her blog!!!!!! "My Corner of the Studio" here on blogger.com/blogspot.com.

Check it out when you have a minute... and if YOU also have a blog... copy and paste this url into YOUR post... leave her a comment, become a follower and YOU TOO could possibly win the blog candy! We all have until April 26th to enter!

Click here... http://kitten91303.blogspot.com/2009/03/my-blod-candy.html

Enjoy!

P.S. I'll get back to my "memory issue" later... did I mention I have a bad memory?

Tuesday, January 20, 2009

Are You Watching The Inauguration of Barack Obama?

I'm watching. I thought I was DVR'ing it, but apparently, it's not working. :-(

I think the most exciting aspect of this presidency is the fact that HOPE is actually alive. We as a country have fallen into Apathy and a general thinking that "why vote, it won't matter anyway". This presidential race has had MORE VOTERS turn out than prior races. People have gotten INVOLVED! Starbucks is giving away a FREE CUP OF LATTE for everyone who contributes 5 hours of community service this week! People are GETTING INVOLVED in their own communities and THAT's what it's all about. People. Community. Hope.

President Barack Obama is NOT the Messiah. He's not going to wave a magic wand and fix the world's problems. But, what his candicacy has done is bring people TOGETHER... those that believe in hope and dreams.

Perhaps the nay-sayers and Bush-supporters will always be on the outside saying "It'll never happen", but I prefer to be on the side of Hope.

Without Hope, what's the point? Obama may not be the reincarnation of Hope Eternal, but his great optimistic attitude is certainly a step in the right direction! Will he fix all problems? No. Will he try? Yes. Will this presidency be historic? Yes. Will Life Forever Change? No... but, we can be hopeful. :-)

Be happy, be honest, be hopeful. It makes life so much more worth living!

Thursday, December 25, 2008

I Don't Think THIS is the Definition of "Merry Christmas"...

I wonder why couples get divorced. Really. I wonder. So many do, and it appears to be pretty easy. But, I wonder what prompts that move. What is the "final straw"?

Two well-known Hollywood couples are saying that "Divorce is not an option"... both couples admit to being in couples therapy... Jada & Will and Courtney & David. I admire their tenacity. I also thought that divorce was not an option... but now I'm not so sure.

Today is officially Christmas. My first Christmas without my mom... or my dad. My father passed away unexpectedly in 2002, just three days after the equally unexpected death of my then-boyfriend's own father. I was at his father's funeral when I received the fateful call at 5:45am on May 9th. My husband and I both lost our dads within a few days of one another. A bonding moment, for sure, but one we would have gladly done without, thank you. My mom passed just 9 months ago, on Easter Sunday. In my house... in my arms, actually. This, too, was quite unexpected, although she had been ill for quite some time.

Oh, and did I mention that we found my beloved cat lifeless just a few days before Christmas this year? Yes, we did. Thankfully, my husband took care of burying him in our yard. And, telling our child.

One would think that my husband would be extra thoughtful this holiday season, right?

Not.

In fact, at the end of a very heated argument regarding the riskiness of leaving our daughter strapped in her carseat in his sports car with the keys in the ignition, driver's door open in the middle of the night in a bad neighborhood... while he stands OUTSIDE the car... he quite nicely told me that his ENTIRE family believes me to be an unrelentless Bitch. The only family I have left doesn't even like me, according to my husband. How's that for a Merry Christmas?

Nice, huh?

Yes, so while I have always believed that Divorce is not an Option and I have loved my husband through many "thick and thin" periods, this Christmas, I'm wondering how others make that decision. Is it the realization that no matter what you do, your situation will never change because the issue involves your spouse's inherent personality? Is it the realization that every argument escalates in much the same manner with your husband calling you horrible, hurtful names and saying the most awful words to you? Is it the realization that no matter how many times you try to get on the same page with your spouse, it will always be like banging your head against the wall - frustrating.

Tomorrow morning, when our child runs downstairs with the anticipation of opening her gifts from Santa, I will enjoy the moment. I will enjoy the beauty of her face as she opens her presents. I will enjoy her being able to say, "Look Mommy! Look Daddy! See what Santa brought me!"

Because, next year, Christmas morning may be just she and I, and she'll have to call her dad on the phone.

Divorce shouldn't be an option. But, I understand now why it is for some people. Because choosing the same path and getting the same result gets old after a while... and I love my husband... I just don't love the pain and sadness that I feel when he says hurtful things to me. I learned a long time ago not to name-call in arguments, or say things that could come back "to bite you in the ass". He has yet to learn this lesson. He fights back with so much hatred that it's difficult to forget the next day.

Merry Christmas. I hope your holiday is happy, and filled with joy and love. I know mine will be as I look upon the face of my child, happy on Christmas morning. For the duration of the day, I will not be thinking about the hurtful things that my husband said to me on Christmas Eve, nor will I dwell on the fact that my mom is no longer here with me to experience this joy, but I will dwell on the love that I feel for my child.

May your holidays be filled with joy, love and happiness. Always.

Tuesday, November 25, 2008

What are YOU Thankful For?

Last year, I gifted my sibling with a beautiful handmade "Thankful Jar"... in it, were delicate hand-decorated slips of paper for each Thanksgiving dinner guest to write what they were most thankful for. No one used the jar. The beautiful jar was unceremoniously shoved beneath the buffet table by my sibling's partner who loudly exclaimed "I have nothing to be thankful for, so this was obviously a stupid choice for a gift".

Wait a minute... "a stupid choice for a gift"? Hmmm... perhaps the choice of partner...? Ah, but nevertheless... their union remains unbroken and...

I have since retrieved my Thankful Jar from my non-thankful recipients, thankyouverymuch.

What are YOU thankful for this year?

I am thankful for many things, though the two people for whom I am most thankful will not be here this year to celebrate with me - my parents, both of whom have now passed onto "the other side". This year, they will at last be together for every holiday, once again. It was six long years of solitude for my dear mother, who lived each day awaiting her reunion with her beloved. This year, I'm sure she is sitting at his side, watching us, with love.

I am thankful that I had the honor and pleasure of bringing my mom to live with my little family for her final years on Earth. I am thankful for her unwavering love and support, even when she didn't agree with me (which was 95% of the time). I am thankful that I was able to care for her, which is something that she had always regretted not being able to do for her own mother.

I am thankful for my husband, who always takes care of our family, our finances and our home, even when he's exhausted by life's demands. I am thankful for his unwavering love and support, despite the "beautiful mess we're in". :-)

I am thankful for our child, whose love, happiness and sunny disposition makes every day a beautiful day.

I am thankful for our health.

I am thankful for my sibling, without whose love and support, I would most likely be stranded on a dark sideroad somewhere.

I am thankful for his children, whom I have loved and will always love as my own.

And, I am thankful that I am here on this Earth to enjoy yet another beautiful, stress-ridden family holiday!

Enjoy!

And, please pass me the rest of that sweet potato casserole, already!

Wednesday, November 5, 2008

One Truly Historic Moment!

Tuesday, November 4, 2008 should be noted in future history books as The Day America Changed. Last night, tears were streaming down my face as I watched the joy on the faces of Americans everywhere. Not only was the first African-American man elected President by a country that has been known for its racism and division in the past, but Americans young and old, black and white, yellow and brown, gay and straight, rejoiced TOGETHER. The future is calling and it's screaming "CHANGE".

I am BLOWN AWAY by and PROUD of the overwhelming amount of joy and celebration that was evident last night, all across America. Americans - black, white, yellow and brown; gay, straight, undecided - all were standing shoulder-to-shoulder at Grant Park in Chicago, IL to listen to the acceptance speech of a lifetime from Barack Obama. Americans in Times Square were celebrating as if it was New Year's Eve...

We stayed up to watch the election results, as I'm sure many did, but continued to watch past midnight as the media showed the partying in the streets in Chicago, NY, DC, San Diego... it was simply amazing to watch ... more happiness and tears of joy than New Year's Eve. I saw Hope in the eyes of revelers; now that's something different... and it's wonderful to see this.

I am excited
for our children's future now. Sure, I'm excited for our own future, too. But, since the birth of my own child, my decisions have been led by my desire to make the world a better place for my child.

And in a way, it WAS New Year's Eve last night. The Eve of a new generation of CHANGE.

Yes we CAN!

Sunday, October 5, 2008

October's finally here (oh, wait, it's almost over now)! Time for the Dysfunction to begin!

OK, so I totally forgot that I had this post in draft form... oops! I absolutely love this time of year! Autumn is my most favorite season... colorful leaves falling ever so gently from the swaying trees... crisp breezes resplendent with the rich scent of fireplaces rousted from a long summer season of non-use... the sweet laughter of children as they eagerly climb onto their new school buses or run off to the local park, the back-to-school sales at Target and the craft stores. Oh, wait... that's my dream Autumn. ;-)



October is my favorite month for sure. Halloween is my favorite holiday, too. Is there a connection? Probably. But, then October gives way to November and therein lies...

THE PROBLEM:
Dysfunction at its finest. Let the FAMILY HOLIDAY PLANNING TRIALS begin!


What does YOUR family do for holidays? WE argue. Regardless of how civil we wish the holidays could be, it's always the same thing year after year... holiday after holiday. Oh, we don't argue out loud at the dinner table - that would be way too crass! Our arguments and disagreements starts way before the turkey is set on the table at Thanksgiving. We argue silently. YOU know the what I mean...

You see, my sibling is the classic Passive-Aggressive type. She will simply appear to agree with my suggestions, so as not to disagree. Therefore, in the eyes of our parents, SHE is the "Agreeable One" and *I* am the problem child. She will not actually make plans (for fear of having to discuss plans with her partner), but she will appear to go along with whatever plans are actually set into motion by my parents and I. Then, she simply does not share the plans with her family (probably for fear that her partner will disagree). And, when the Holiday arrives, and she conveniently "forgets the plans", *I* look like the Bad Guy because I am adamant about keeping to the original plan (which was made without anyone disagreeing to it verbally) because now my husband's family has gone ahead and made plans without us. If I didn't push the issue with my own family, we'd spend every holiday alone on the years that we are supposed to be with my own family.

If it were up to my sibling, she'd simply call me on the morning of the holiday and say, "What are you doing today? We are having dinner at 3pm" - that's it, no advance invitation per se, but a declaration of when food will be available. Because we should just be sitting around waiting for that call, right?


My husband's family lives in Timbuktu, so we try to make plans ahead of time because of the travel time and sleeping accommodations that need to be made. Every year, it's a struggle because we are one family far away, while everyone else is situated many hours away, all together. Therefore, we either travel there, or we do not see his family for the holiday. There is no other option. It's 3 against 23 and there's always room for sleeping three somewhere. But, arranging sleeping accommodations for 23 is impossible, unless one owns a hotel. We... do not.

So, while October is a wonderful month full of beautiful foilage and photo opportunities, it inevitably leads into November.



Let the Dysfunction begin!

Sunday, September 21, 2008

Anne Kilkenny - Where Are YOU?

Have you received Anne Kilkenny's email in YOUR inbox yet? If not, you're in luck, because I have and I'd like to send it to you! It's a must read! What? I don't have your email address? I guess I'll just have to post it HERE in hopes that you stumble upon my blog...

This email written by Anne Kilkenny IS being distributed widely via email - it's apparently the "hot ticket" these days. Let's face it - McCain chose Palin NOT based upon her expertise, or credentials for being a VP - he chose Palin b/c she has OVARIES, just like Hillary Clinton. Apparently, McCain missed the POINT and misjudged the American Public YET AGAIN and thought that women voted for Hillary SIMPLY because she sports reproductive acoutrements different than his own. Duh - not! Hillary ALSO has cahones - oh, but wait... that's true, McCain doesn't, now, does he? Too bad she didn't win the D nomination - but that doesn't mean women will automatically chose Palin over Obama! The race is not about breaking the glass ceiling by electing a woman President - it's about breaking the stagnant cycle - it's about CHANGE.

Here's the letter... check your inbox:

"Dear friends,

So many people have asked me about what I know about Sarah Palin in the last 2 days that I decided to write something up . . .

Basically, Sarah Palin and Hillary Clinton have only 2 things in common: their gender and their good looks. :)

You have my permission to forward this to your friends/email contacts with my name and email address attached, but please do not post it on any websites, as there are too many kooks out there . . .

Thanks, Anne

ABOUT SARAH PALIN

I am a resident of Wasilla, Alaska. I have known Sarah since 1992. Everyone here knows Sarah, so it is nothing special to say we are on a first-name basis. Our children have attended the same schools. Her father was my child's favorite substitute teacher. I also am on afirst name basis with her parents and mother-in-law.

I attended more City Council meetings during her administration than about 99% of the residents of the city.She is enormously popular; in every way shes like the most popular girl in middle school. Even men who think she is a poor choice andwon't vote for her can't quit smiling when talking about her because she is a "babe".

It is astonishing and almost scary how well she can keep a secret. She kept her most recent pregnancy a secret from her children and parents for seven months.

She is "pro-life". She recently gave birth to a Down's syndrome baby. There is no cover-up involved, here; Trig is her baby.

She is energetic and hardworking.

She regularly worked out at the gym.

She is savvy.

She doesn't take positions; she just "puts things out there" and if they prove to be popular, then she takes credit.

Her husband works a union job on the North Slope for BP and is a champion snowmobile racer. Todd Palins kind of job is highlysought-after because of the schedule and high pay. He arranges his work schedule so he can fish for salmon in Bristol Bay for a month or so in summer, but by no stretch of the imagination is fishing their major source of income. Nor has her life-style ever been anything like that of native Alaskans.

Sarah and her whole family are avid hunters.

She's smart.

Her experience is as mayor of a city with a population of about 5,000 (at the time), and less than 2 years as governor of a state with about 670,000 residents.

During her mayoral administration most of the actual work of running this small city was turned over to an administrator. She had been pushed to hire this administrator by party power-brokers after she had gotten herself into some trouble over precipitous firings which had given rise to a recall campaign.

Sarah campaigned in Wasilla as a fiscal conservative. During her 6 years as Mayor, she increased general government expenditures by over 33%. During those same 6 years the amount of taxes collected by the City increased by 38%. This was during a period of low inflation (1996-2002). She reduced progressive property taxes and increased a regressive sales tax which taxed even food. The tax cuts that she promoted benefited large corporate property owners way more than they benefited residents.

The huge increases in tax revenues during her mayoral administration werent enough to fund everything on her wish list though, borrowed money was needed, too.

She inherited a city with zero debt, but left it with indebtedness of over $22 million. What did Mayor Palin encourage the voters to borrow money for? Was it the infrastructure that she said she supported? The sewage treatment plant that the city lacked? or a new library? No. $1m for a park. $15m-plus for construction of a multi-use sports complex which she rushed through to build on a piece of property that the City didn't even have clear title to, that was still in litigation 7 yrs later--to the delight of the lawyers involved! The sports complex itself is a nice addition to the community but a huge money pit, not the profit-generator she claimed it would be. She also supported bonds for $5.5m for road projects that could have been done in 5-7 yrs without any borrowing.

While Mayor, City Hall was extensively remodeled and her office redecorated more than once.

These are small numbers, but Wasilla is a very small city.

As an oil producer, the high price of oil has created a budget surplus in Alaska. Rather than invest this surplus in technology that will make us energy independent and increase efficiency, as Governor she proposed distribution of this surplus to every individual in the state.

In this time of record state revenues and budget surpluses, she recommended that the state borrow/bond for road projects, even while she proposed distribution of surplus state revenues: spend today's surplus, borrow for needs.Shes not very tolerant of divergent opinions or open to outside ideas or compromise.

As Mayor, she fought ideas that weren't generated by her or her staff. Ideas weren't evaluated on their merits, but on the basis of who proposed them.

While Sarah was Mayor of Wasilla she tried to fire our highly respected City Librarian because the Librarian refused to consider removing from the library some books that Sarah wanted removed. City residents rallied to the defense of the City Librarian and against Palin's attempt at out-and-out censorship, so Palin backed down and withdrew her termination letter. People who fought her attempt to oust the Librarian are on her enemies list to this day.

Sarah complained about the old boys club when she first ran for Mayor, so what did she bring Wasilla? A new set of "old boys".

Palin fired most of the experienced staff she inherited. At the City and as Governor she hired or elevated new, inexperienced, obscure people, creating a staff totally dependent on her for their jobs and eternally grateful and fiercely loyal--loyal to the point of abusing their power to further her personal agenda, as she has acknowledged happened in the case of pressuring the States top cop (see below).

As Mayor, Sarah fired Wasillas Police Chief because he intimidated her, she told the press. As Governor, her recent firing of Alaska's top cop has the ring of familiarity about it. He served at her pleasure and she had every legal right to fire him, but it's pretty clear that an important factor in her decision to fire him was because he wouldn't fire her sister's ex-husband, a State Trooper.

Under investigation for abuse of power, she has had to admit that more than 2 dozen contacts were made between her staff and family to the person that she later fired, pressuring him to fire her ex-brother-in-law. She tried to replace the man she fired with a man who she knew had been reprimanded for sexual harassment; when this caused a public furor, she withdrew her support.

She has bitten the hand of every person who extended theirs to her in help. The City Council person who personally escorted her around town introducing her to voters when she first ran for Wasilla City Council became one of her first targets when she was later elected Mayor.

She abruptly fired her loyal City Administrator; even people who didn't like the guy were stunned by this ruthlessness.

Fear of retribution has kept all of these people from saying anything publicly about her.

When then-Governor Murkowski was handing out political plums, Sarah got the best, Chair of the Alaska Oil and Gas Conservation Commission: one of the few jobs not in Juneau and one of the best paid. She had no background in oil & gas issues. Within months of scoring this great job which paid $122,400/yr, she was complaining in the press about the high salary. I was told that she hated that job: the commute, the structured hours, the work. Sarah became aware that a member of this Commission (who was also the State Chair of the Republican Party) engaged in unethical behavior on the job. In a gutsy move which some undoubtedly cautioned her could be political suicide, Sarah solved all her problems in one fell swoop: got out of the job she hated and garnered gobs of media attention as the patron saint of ethics and as a gutsy fighter against the old boys club when she dramatically quit, exposing this mans ethics violations (for which he was fined).

As Mayor, she had her hand stuck out as far as anyone for pork from Senator Ted Stevens. Lately, she has castigated his pork-barrel politics and publicly humiliated him.

She only opposed the bridge to nowhere after it became clear that it would be unwise not to.

As Governor, she gave the Legislature no direction and budget guidelines, then made a big grandstand display of line-item vetoingprojects, calling them pork. Public outcry and further legislative action restored most of these projects--which had been vetoed simply because she was not aware of their importance--but with the unobservant she had gained a reputation as anti-pork.

She is solidly Republican: no political maverick.

The State party leaders hate her because she has bit them in the back and humiliated them. Other members of the party object to her self-description as a fiscal conservative.

Around Wasilla there are people who went to high school with Sarah. They call her Sarah Barracuda because of her unbridled ambition and predatory ruthlessness. Before she became so powerful, very ugly stories circulated around town about shenanigans she pulled to be made point guard on the high school basketball team.

When Sarah's mother-in-law, a highly respected member of the community and experienced manager, ran for Mayor, Sarah refused to endorse her.

As Governor, she stepped outside of the box and put together of package of legislation known as AGIA that forced the oil companies to march to the beat of her drum. Like most Alaskans, she favors drilling in the Arctic National Wildlife Refuge. She has questioned if the loss of sea ice is linked to global warming. She campaigned as a private citizen against a state initiative that would have either a) protected salmon streams frompollution from mines, or b) tied up in the courts all mining in the state (depending on who you listen to).

She has pushed the States lawsuit against the Dept. of the Interiors decision to list polar bears as threatened species.

McCain is the oldest person to ever run for President; Sarah will be a heartbeat away from being President.

There has to be literally millions of Americans who are more knowledgeable and experienced than she. However, there's a lot of people who have underestimated her and are regretting it.

CLAIM VS FACT:

Hockey mom: true for a few years

PTA mom: true years ago when her first-born was in elementary school, not since

NRA supporter: absolutely true

social conservative: mixed. Opposes gay marriage, BUT vetoed a bill that would have denied benefits to employees in same-sex relationships (said she did this because it was unconstitutional).

pro-creationism: mixed. Supports it, BUT did nothing as Governor to promote it.

Pro-life: mixed. Knowingly gave birth to a Downs syndrome baby BUT declined to call a special legislative session on some pro-life legislation

Experienced: Some high schools have more students than Wasilla has residents. Many cities have more residents than the state of Alaska. No legislative experience other than City Council. Little hands-on supervisory or managerial experience; needed help of a city administrator to run town of about 5,000.

political maverick: not at all

gutsy: absolutely!

open & transparent: ??? Good at keeping secrets. Not good at explaining actions.

has a developed philosophy of public policy: no

A Greenie: no. Turned Wasilla into a wasteland of big box stores and disconnected parking lots. Is pro-drilling off-shore and in ANWR.

fiscal conservative: not by my definition!

pro-infrastructure: No. Promoted a sports complex and park in a city without a sewage treatment plant or storm drainage system. Built streets to early 20th century standards.

pro-tax relief: Lowered taxes for businesses, increased tax burden on residents

pro-small government: No. Oversaw greatest expansion of city government in Wasillas history.

pro-labor/pro-union. No. Just because her husband works union doesn't make her pro-labor. I have seen nothing to support any claim that she is pro-labor/pro-union.

WHY AM I WRITING THIS?

First, I have long believed in the importance of being an informed voter. I am a voter registrar. For 10 years I put on student voting programs in the schools. If you google my name (Anne Kilkenny + Alaska), you will find references to my participation in local government, education, and PTA/parent organizations.

Secondly, I've always operated in the belief that "Bad things happen when good people stay silent". Few people know as much as I do because few have gone to as many City Council meetings.

Third, I am just a housewife. I don't have a job she can bump me out of. I don't belong to any organization that she can hurt. But, I am no fool; she is immensely popular here, and it is likely that this will cost me somehow in the future: that's life.

Fourth, she has hated me since back in 1996, when I was one of the 100 or so people who rallied to support the City Librarian against Sarah's attempt at censorship.

Fifth, I looked around and realized that everybody else was afraid to say anything because they were somehow vulnerable.

CAVEATS

I am not a statistician. I developed the numbers for the increase in spending & taxation 2 years ago (when Palin was running for Governor) from information supplied to me by the Finance Director of the City of Wasilla, and I can't recall exactly what I adjusted for: did I adjust for inflation? for population increases? Right now, it is impossible for a private person to get any info out of City Hall--they are swamped.

So I can't verify my numbers.You may have noticed that there are various numbers circulating for the population of Wasilla, ranging from my "about 5,000", up to 9,000. The day Palins selection was announced a city official told me that the current population is about 7,000. The official 2000 census count was 5,460. I have used about 5,000 because Palin was Mayor from 1996 to 2002, and the city was growing rapidly in the mid-90s.

Anne Kilkenny

This concludes the portion of Anne's Email that has already been published online in various places.

You may wish to check out these links, as well:
http://www.examiner.com/x-775-Political-Issues-Examiner~y2008m9d3-Behind-the-Viral-Email-on-Sarah-Palin

http://www.snopes.com/politics/soapbox/sarahpalin.asp

http://www.new.facebook.com/topic.php?topic=5658&post=21486&uid=23510724557#post21486